love
I was reading a Social Psychology textbook today..And a topic hit me on the content of the book. "Love"
Read until Karl Marx dinimished in my mind.
Decide to read more online and found a few stuffz..Hehex :D
Liking vs. Loving
Psychologist Zick Rubin proposed that romantic love is made up of three elements:
attachment, caring, and intimacy.
Attachment is the need to receive care, approval, and physical contact with the other person. Caring involves valuing the other persons needs and happiness as much as your own.
Intimacy refers to the sharing of thoughts, desires, and feelings with the other person.
Based upon this definition, Rubin devised a questionnaire to
assess attitudes about others and found that these scales of
liking and loving provided support for his conception of love.
Love is not a concrete concept and is therefore difficult to measure.
Rubin's scales of liking and loving offer a way to measure the complex feeling of love.
Compassionate vs. Passionate Love
According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues,
There are two basic types of love:
compassionate love and passionate love.
Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect,
attachment, affection, and trust. Compassionate love usually
develops out of feelings of mutual understanding
and shared respect for each other.
Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction,
anxiety, and affection. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, people feel elated and fulfilled. Unreciprocated love leads to feelings of despondence and despair.
Hatfield suggests that passionate love is transitory, usually lasting between 6 and 30 months. According to Hatfield, passionate love arises when cultural expectations
encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas
of an ideal lover, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal
in the presence of the other person.
Ideally passionate love then leads to compassionate love,
which is far more enduring. While most people desire relationships
that combine the security and stability of compassionate with the
intensity of passionate love, Hatfield suggests that this is rare.
09 September 2009 @ 9:50 PM / 0 daisies
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