Kindness
Is kindness more important to each of you than having your way,
being in control, or being right? Do you each receive joy out of
being kind to each other? Being kind rather than controlling
with each other is essential for a healthy relationship.
Spontaneous Warmth and Affection
Do you and your partner well up with warmth and fullness of
heart for each other and express it with affection? Are you each able
to see the beautiful essence within each other, rather than just the
faults? Are you able to get beyond the outer to the unique
inner Self of each other? Do you enjoy sharing affection?
Warmth and affection are vital for a healthy relationship.
Laughter and Fun
Can the two of you laugh and play together?
Do you appreciate and enjoy each other?
In the midst of difficulties, can you help each other to lighten up
with humor? Can you let down and be playful with each other,
letting yourselves be like kids together?
Laughter and fun play a huge role in a healthy relationship.
Enjoying Time Together and Time Apart
Are you both each other’s favorite person to spend time with?
Are you motivated to set aside time just to be together?
Do both of you have friends and interests that you enjoy doing?
Are both of you fine when you are not together?
Some couples spend a lot of time together because they
really enjoy it. It is important for a healthy relationship
for each person to have friends and interests.
A Method for Conflict Resolution
All relationships have some conflict. It is not the conflict that is the issue,
but how you deal with it. Do you have a method for resolving conflict,
or do the issues just keep getting swept aside?
If fighting is part of how you deal with conflict, do you fight fair,
or are you hurtful when you fight?
Letting Go of Anger
If one or both of you get angry, do you hang on to it,
punishing your partner with it, or can you easily let it go?
In healthy relationships, both partners are able to quickly
move on, back into kindness and affection.
Trust in Your Love for Each Other
Do you each trust that the love is solid, even in very difficult times
between you? Do you each know that you can mess up, fail,
disappoint the other, emotionally hurt the other ? and the
love will still be there? Do you each know that the love is
about who you are, not what you do?
This level of trust is essential for a healthy relationship.
Listening, Understanding, Accepting and Learning
Do you each feel heard, understood and accepted?
Can you share your secrets with your partner without fearing being judged?
Are you each more interested in learning about yourselves
and each other than you are in controlling each other?
Is listening to each other with an open heart and a desire to
understand more important than judging each other or defending yourselves?
Sexuality
Is your sexual relationship warm and caring?
Can you be sexually spontaneous? Can you talk with each
other about what brings pleasure to each of you?
Freedom to Be Yourself
Do you each feel free to be all that you are? Do you each feel supported
in pursuing what brings you joy? Does your partner feel joy for your joy?
While some people may naturally be open, kind, affectionate, accepting,
and emotionally responsible for themselves, most people need to
heal the fears and false beliefs they learned in their families.
Healthy relationships evolve as each person evolves in his or
her ability to be loving to themselves and each other.
Do you feel any answer of "no"? if u do, do something about it :)
Best wishes peepz!
09 May 2009 @ 2:04 AM / 0 daisies
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